Friday, May 22, 2009

On Wanting To Go Home

I think I really really need to tell my sister I want to move out.

It's hard for me to admit even to myself that I really want to move out but tonight I had a bit of a rough night at work and all I wanted to do was go home, strip, pop the top on a can of soda, sit in a comfy chair and eat sushi with the telly on. Instead I came home, quietly slipped through the living room/sister's bedroom and ate sushi in my room laying on my bed cause I don't have room in my room for a chair. Well I do have room if I don't mind not having room to walk around. I almost walked up to one of the hotels near the highway and got a room instead of coming home. It's very telling to me that I was almost dreading coming home.

About the rough night at work. It wasn't really bad, just I had an employee complaining about another employee and it just ate at me. I should have put a stop to it but I didn't. I tried once to counter her complaints, which I felt were unfounded but she didn't listen to me. I feel like I failed in managing this problem. Later she did something else and I jumped on her a bit about it, more than I should have because of her she had acted earlier. I'm not sure what I should do.

Someone(you know who you are) told me that I should be the kind of manager I would want to be my manager. Still not quite sure but I have a feeling for what I should do.


  1. Hmmm...

    I wonder who that advice-giver was...

    First, I know how you feel as far as being crowded. I have a friend and her kids (about three nights a week) here in my one-bedroom apt. I could go into detail, but I'm too busy going crazy.

    As for mediation... Listen, observe, be fair, don't take sides. Most importantly, don't become emotionally involved. The hardest part is facing confrontation. (I hate that myself.) There's a book I used to have, which I think is out of print, called TEACHER EFFECTIVENESS TRAINING, and it had a chapter on active listening. I'll see if I can dig it up. (I could probably do with a re-reading myself.) Not knowing what exactly the problem was between these employees, I can confidently say only this: the most important thing is the profitable running of the store. More later, I hope.

  2. Listen, observe, be fair, don't take sides. Most importantly, don't become emotionally involved.

    More good advice that I will strive to remember.