Ok so it's been two weeks since my move to my new to me apt which came with a roommate and three cats. I'm still adapting to living in a new space. I feel a little like an intruder since my roommate has been living here longer than me which makes me the new person. I'm not saying I don't like my roommate cause I really do like her. Yesterday she asked me if I wanted her to use male or female pronouns. She's only the second person who has asked me that. It made me feel like less of a freak(I know I'm not a freak but sometimes I feel like one).
Quick digression to the day I moved(June 1) : That day was the last day I had paid to be in my former apt and the first day I could move into my new apt so I had to move everything that day. Luckily I hadn't moved much stuff from storage and had no furniture to move. The friend who had introed me and my new roommate volunteered to help me move. She picked me up after I got off work. As she drove out of the parking lot of my work, she mentioned she had seen something I had posted on my facebook and asked me if I wanted her to refer to me as a woman. She was the first person to ask me that. I said yes and that was that. The rest of the day when she had to refer to me in third person she said she or her. I don't think anyone really caught on that she was doing that but I noticed and it made me feel like less of a freak(again I know I'm not really a freak but I still feel like one sometimes).
Back to the present: This morning I was feeling mostly neutral. Then while I was taking some meat up to the prep line I caught part of a conversation between two guys. They were talking about a woman when one leaned close to the other and whispered, "She used to be a he." I was kneeling next to them so it wasn't hard for me hear this. The second guy then said, "Aww no one wants that." I'm not sure if they said anything else because I kind of went away mentally for a minute while my body finished putting up the meat and walked to the back. I tried to go back to work but I couldn't focus so I went to the bathroom and broke down for a few minutes. After that the day was a little more bleak.
I wish I had been able to confront the guy about what he said but I couldn't. As soon as he said what he said everything became fuzzy and I couldn't think. The thing that really hurts is that this one of the few guys at work that I was on friendly terms. Not that I'm enemies with the rest but I don't really talk to them either. Part of me want's to go back tomorrow and confront him but I know that he won't remember what he said. To me it was a triggering statement. To him it was just a mindless comment. Also I'm not out at work to the majority of my co-workers so I'd also have to out myself to him to explain why it hurt me so much. The really sad thing was I was considering coming out to him but now I don't feel safe to do so.
Sorry to end on a depressing note but that's all I got for today,
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